Do you have a sticker over your laptop’s webcam? Is your password more complicated than alphabet soup? Then you’re smart enough to care about your online privacy—and that’s hot. But there’s more to online safety. Secure messaging apps for sexting can give you real privacy and peace of mind for your online sexy times.
Secure Sexting Apps? Why Should I Care?
Perhaps you feel that Big Data already has all of your information. Unfortunately, the news in recent years has been full of stories featuring popular social media companies selling your data off of their platforms. Even certain sites we assume to be private are less so when you peek under the hood. For instance, many apps have terms that give them rights to re-use and publicly display content you share through them. Look closely at their terms of service to determine if your content is really yours alone.
So why bother with a “secure” application?
Well, for one, Future You will likely be grateful for any security measures you take now. It might not seem important to keep your sexting, steamy pics, and video sex private today. But your life may change, bringing you new opportunities and new scrutiny. Give yourself the ability to recreate yourself by staying private.
Four Secure Apps for Sexting
What sets the following four apps apart? They are all reliable, so you can relax and enjoy your online sexy time. They keep your messaging, including your sexts, safe with strong security and encryption. And they won’t share your information with third parties. Plus, their Terms of Service support your privacy. Unlike other apps that you may use now, they allow consensual adult messaging. Best of all, your personal content belongs to you.
Here are the top secure apps for all your personal messaging:
- Signal: The favorite choice of your tech expert friends. Even better, Signal is free.
- Telegram: This is an especially good app if one of you is on Android and the other is on iPhone. Telegram is also free. (Update: There is some controversy within security circles as to whether Telegram’s unique encryption protocol is as effective as others on this list, and there is a known security issue if you invite bots to your chats – read more here.)
- Threema: A third app for iPhone users, with top-notch security and privacy. If you or your partner are skeptical that a free app is truly private, there is a small charge for Threema.
- Privates: A fun new app that combines strong security and a host of playful functions.
If your favorite app isn’t here, time to take a fine-tooth comb to their terms of service.
Once you’ve picked your new secure app for sexting, get inspired with our article 20 Sexts To Make Your Partner Want You Right Now.
How Apps Can Help Your Privacy Concerns
Here’s how these four apps can keep your private online times truly private.
Concern: Other people may see your private messages and sexts.
Don’t worry if you’re always passing your phone to your friends to show them cute images. Our recommended apps can hide or remove your private messages. Look for these functions.
- Auto-delete messages: Signal and Telegram both allow you to set a timer to automatically delete your messages. When the time is up, the app will eliminate messages and images in a chat.
- PIN or fingerprint code for chats: Threema lets you protect special chats with a PIN code. If you don’t have the code, you can’t see the chat, simple as that.
- Secret Chat: Telegram has its Secret Chat function. This makes it super easy to have a secure conversation without changing lots of settings, with an easy-to-use timer to set the auto-delete.
Concern: Other people pop up in your notifications when you’re trying to have a private call.
Nothing kills the mood during video sex like a new message notification, especially if it’s from your mom! Good news: all these apps let you block notifications. With Signal, you can block for as short a time as an hour.
Here’s another common-sense way to keep Mom out of your notifications. When you’re installing messaging apps, the apps may ask you to connect everyone in your phone’s contact list. Don’t do this. Instead, add contacts based on who you want to chat with in each app.
Concern: Can you prevent someone from capturing your messaging and pics in screenshots?
With “revenge porn” so widespread it’s become a crime in some places, you may be concerned that someone will screenshot your sexts and share them with the world. One app on the list does its best to prevent others from taking screenshots. It’s called Privates, and its motto is, “Express yourself without worrying about screenshooting. Protect your Privates!” It has other fun features for sexting too, like “capture your reaction” and the ability to draw and write on photos.
Concern: You don’t want someone to hack your sexts and pics or capture them with spyware.
Apps that use strong security and encryption protect you from hacking and spyware. To keep your messages totally private, they transmit them as scrambled code. They only unscramble your message for the person who receives it.
Also, consider anti-spyware apps. These are different from messaging apps. They check your devices to see if there are any spyware or stalkerware apps installed. AntiSpy and Incognito are free options. Hacker and feminist activist Eva Galperin has worked with IT security group Kaspersky to get anti-stalkerware added to their security apps. If you’re seriously worried, change your passwords and do a factory reset of your device.
Learn how to have the sexiest video chat on your new secure app with The Beginner’s Guide to Video Sex.
How to Get Your Partner to Use Secure Apps With You
If you’re using a secure app, your partner needs to use it, too. The toughest part may be getting them out of their comfort zone to use a new communication tool. Give them a demo on your own device to show them how easy it is. Discuss your concerns. And share how the app you like helps you feel safer.
Or your partner might suddenly want to show off their own tech skills! Check out a few Terms of Service together. You might both be surprised. Try asking them which app out of two secure ones they want to use. The best way to be secure is to have a partner you trust. Human nature is the weakest link in online security—especially around sexts or video sex. Plenty of people can’t resist showing off sexy texts or photos they’ve received. For more on this, read our article on How to Keep Your Naughty Texts and Photos Private with more tips on partner trust and tech settings for both of you. And have fun starting a future where you get to keep your secrets!