Do you remember the magic of the first time with your lover? Getting to know each other, flirting, and seduction are what makes falling in love so much fun! But while lots of couples settle down, settle in, and stop having fun, others manage to extend that joyful sense of discovery into decades. One way to do this is with a role play scenario.
Role-playing is a fun, free, easy way to recover a sense of newness, thrill, and urgency in an established relationship. All it takes is imagination and a willingness to commit to sexy silliness (although accents and wigs are optional extras.) Trying on a different you, or seeing your partner as if for the first time, is incredibly freeing. It gives you both license to emphasize parts of you that may be kept under wraps in regular life. You can be extra bitchy, super bossy, or really easy.
You may be surprised at how a little play-acting can turbocharge your libido. So harness the power of your dirtiest fantasies and have mind-blowing sex tonight.
Stuck for ideas? Here are 20 suggested role-playing scenarios to give you dramatic license. (For more in-depth information about how to make them happen, read our Beginner’s Guide to Successful Role Playing.) Some of these scenarios are gender specific, but don’t let that keep you from trying something that intrigues you. Any scene can be adapted to suit the identities of the players. Since it can be tough to get started, we’ve included a suggested opening line for each scene. We’ll let you take it from there.
WARNING: Certain situations can be triggering for some people. So always discuss the scene you want to do before beginning, make sure you and your lover are both into it, and agree on a safe word in case one of you needs to stop. And these role-playing scenarios are meant to be between two consenting adults. Don’t use it as an excuse to hit on your actual secretary, your student or your nearest caveman.
1. Strangers at a Bar
Suggested opening line: “Come here often?”
This is your ideal starter scene because it’s so easy and soooo hot. You agree to meet your love at a bar and pretend to be strangers laying eyes on each other for the first time. Have a couple drinks. Make some flirty small talk. Then take them home and close the deal. While a bar is the traditional meeting place, this scene works in a library, at a bus stop, even in church. You may find yourselves returning to this one over and over again.
2. Bored Housewife and Door to Door Salesman
Suggested opening line: “Is the lady of the house at home?”
This classic is great for a holiday Monday if you’re both off work during the day. Agree on a time for your partner to ring your bell, then answer the door. Costumes and props work well here. A sexy negligee and a martini gives a hot Mad Men vibe. Invite the tired man in for a refreshing glass of lemonade, make small talk about your window treatments, and seduce him on the dining room table. For a gender swap, try Novelist and Avon Lady.
3. Royalty and Attendant
Suggested opening line: “Come along, Brigitte, and bring your feather duster. We’ll begin in the Master’s bedroom.”
This is a luxurious scene for when one of you wishes to be pampered to the extreme. You can be Cleopatra being bathed by her lady in waiting, Henry VIII being served at table by a footman, or Lord/Lady Grantham giving careful instructions to the new upstairs maid.
4. Doctor and Patient
Suggested opening line: “Prescribe whatever treatment you think best, Doctor.”
The dirty childhood game transfers well to grown-up life because it allows one of you to be professionally distant while touching and tending to the other’s body. You must meet each other’s eyes and discuss intimate topics in a casual way. And eventually, the patient will need to undress.
5. Escort and Client
Suggested opening line: “What do you wanna do first, baby?”
This is fun to start during the work day. The client calls the escort to make an appointment. The escort arrives at the agreed upon place and time, dressed to impress. This scene is especially hot because it allows you to chat and “get to know each other” before getting down to business. And like the Doctor/Patient scenario, it requires a candid discussion of things we don’t always talk about. A client will have to be specific about their desires. If you need a little encouragement in asking for what you want, this game is ideal.
6. Boss and Secretary
Suggested opening line: “Play your cards right and there’s a special bonus in it for you.”
Remember your steno pad, your efficient attitude, and who you’re working for. It’s fun to dictate an x-rated memo. Or apply disciplinary procedures for each typo. Or send your secretary out for ice. And then use it on their body. This one works with any combination of gender roles. But for maximum impact, get inspired by the office culture of last century, where secretaries were like butlers. They might fetch coffee, give a chair massage, or juggle the boss’ lovers.
7. Teacher and Student
Suggested opening line: “Teach. Can I talk to you for a minute?”
This one works because it’s so versatile. Think about what turns your crank. Maybe Teacher needs to see the Student after class for an attitude adjustment (and a few smacks with a ruler.) Maybe the Student needs a little tutoring before tomorrow’s anatomy quiz. Or perhaps they want to beg the Professor to turn their B into an A. It’s entirely up to you.
8. Master and Slave
Suggested opening line: “Kneel, slave.”
Are you the slave? Your body is theirs. Your purpose is to serve their every pleasure. Are you the Master or Mistress? They are your treasured property, to be carefully maintained and used for your benefit. The only limit here is whatever you both need to be safe. Experiment with bondage. Play with spanking. Dress up. Compel or give a command performance. Just be sure to discuss limits beforehand. (We have a handy guide to How to Negotiate a Scene that will help.)
9. Study Buddies
Suggested opening line: “I’m really having trouble with page 247. Can you help me understand it?”
You’re just friends helping each other cram for the chemistry exam. You’re way too shy to try anything. But there’s always been chemistry. What would they look like without their glasses? What would it be like to kiss them? Oops. Your hands just accidentally touched. How awkward. This is fun if you have a nerdy academic interest like astronomy or literature. It allows you to relax by talking about something comfortable and familiar.
10. Pirate and Wench/Cabin Boy
Suggested opening line: “Argh! Hand over all your gold doubloons. Have you got them hidden in your bodice?”
Lower the mizzen mast and get that booty. Ravage your hostage or make them walk the plank. Order them to swab the decks or take them to the Captain’s quarters for a game of chess. This one can be as rough or comic as you like. Just remember to fly the Jolly Roger. And remember, ladies can be pirates too! Read up on Anne Bonny or Ching Shih if you need some inspiration.
11. Pilot and Flight Attendant
Suggested opening line: “Ladies and Gentlemen. This is your Captain speaking.”
The Captain has turned off the Fasten Seatbelts sign. You are now free to move about the cabin, lock yourself in the cockpit, and turn on Auto Pilot. It’s ten hours to Shanghai. How will we ever pass the time? This works for those with a 50s fetish, when the Jet Set were like gods and flight attendants were called stewardesses. Throw in some international decor and you can stage a one night stand on another continent. Just remember to schedule a wake up call. You have to fly back to O’Hare in the morning.
12. Football Captain/Cheerleader
Suggested opening line: “We just have to beat The Vikings this weekend. Is there anything I can do to help?”
This game means everything to the team. Show your school spirit and give your captain a private pep rally in the locker room. Feel free to adjust the specific sport to accommodate your gender combo or fantasy preferences. In addition to football games, there are basketball games, gymnastic meets, even cheerleader competitions. This one gets a lot better if you introduce costumes.
13. Photographer and Model
Suggested opening line: “I absolutely MUST take your photograph!”
They LOVE what you’re doing. Just make it a little fiercer. That’s it! You gorgeous animal. Now undo that top button. This one is so hot because it forces the focus onto the model’s body. If you love to worship or be worshipped, this scenario will deliver. Bonus points if you actually take some racy photos. Just be sure to keep them between the two of you.
14. Caveman Sex
Suggested opening line: “Mmm. grunt grunt.”
No talking necessary. Just decide which one drags the other back to the cave.
15. Doll and Collector
Suggested opening line: “Oh, Cassie. Your hair is like golden silk. You’re the most beautiful doll ever.”
A treasured toy may be styled, posed, dressed, and undressed by their adoring owner. Their hair may be brushed, their nails polished. Once undressed, their skin may be oiled to a smooth shine. There are multiple variations on this theme for a variety of kink preferences. The doll can remain immobile throughout sex. They can be a walking, talking true to life version that turns on with the push of a button and responds to commands. Or they can simply come to life when the magic words are spoken, perhaps full of questions about their existence and bursting with adoration for their keeper.
16. Cowboy and Saloon Girl/Farmer’s Daughter/Other Cowboy
Suggested opening line: “Saddle up, partner. It’s time to ride.”
You really can’t go wrong with a cowboy scene. Cowboys are sexy, lonely, and presumably horny. Put one in the same room (or campsite) as any other character and you’ve got a scene. Just add whiskey or poker for authenticity.
17. Cop and Motorist
Suggested opening line: “Do you know why I stopped you?”
How can you possibly talk your way out of this ticket? Flash a little skin. Purse your lips. Throw out a killer grin. If you’re the Officer, what will it take for you to bend the rules? You’re on a dark road in the middle of nowhere. You haven’t passed another car for miles. You can ask for anything you want.
18. Warden and Prisoner
Suggested opening line: “You wanted to see me, Warden?”
Wanna earn some extra yard time tomorrow? The warden has a little problem they could use your help with. You need to get yourself to their office. Tonight. This is a classic variation on the authority figure scene that is erotically charged for so many people. Add as much resistance on the prisoner’s part as works for both of you. Are they good to go or do they need to be convinced?
19. Personal Trainer and Client
Suggested opening line: “So what are your fitness goals?”
You want abs of steel? You’re gonna have to sweat for them. Push it. Again. Good workout. Time for your shower and rubdown. This is a variation on the service scene that allows one person to touch the other. It also allows for shameless staring and brazen compliments from either player. A workout bench, two slippery sexy bodies, skimpy athletic wear. All it takes is a slip of a trainer’s hand to push this scene over the edge.
20. Pizza Delivery Driver and Lonely Single
Suggested opening line: “Thank goodness you’re here. I’m absolutely famished. You look tired, honey. Would you like to come in and sit down?”
This porno standby is a fun way to work up an appetite. Don’t underestimate the power of the classics. Bonus points for delivering an actual pizza.
Your imagination is the ultimate sex toy. Which one of these gets you hot? Try that one tonight (and let us know how you liked it in the comments). Or make a game of trying them all. Or see how many variations on your favorite you can invent. There’s no wrong way to role play, as long as you’re having fun. You’ve now got 20 great ideas to start with – but how do you make them happen? Read The Beginner’s Guide to Successful Role Playing to make it a perfect encounter!
Thank you so much, my wife and I have tried some of these ideas, but we try to switch it different. I am having trouble getting her to engage in them as much lately. We have been together for 36 years and married for 28, so we’re an older couple, and she is in menopause which doesn’t help at all.