By Jade Byrnell
The female sexual response is an extraordinary thing. In addition to possessing the capacity for multiple orgasms and multiple types of orgasms, women also have the potential to ejaculate, or squirt. If you’ve yet to experience a feminine fountain of bliss, it can seem like a mysterious sex miracle. Honestly, even if you’ve done it, it can be confusing. What exactly just happened down there?
Below are answers to some of the most common questions regarding the science of squirting. Better understanding leads to better sex. So whether you’re a veteran squirter or just shyly squirt-curious, read on.
What’s The Deal?
First things first. What happens when a woman squirts? Medical News Today describes it as “the expulsion of fluid from a female’s urethra during orgasm or sexual arousal.” This definition makes it fundamentally the same as a male ejaculation but the words “or sexual arousal” are significant. While men typically ejaculate during orgasm, squirting is entirely optional for women. Our orgasms, biologically speaking, are just for fun and serve no essential baby-making purpose.
An orgasm is nothing more than a series of blissful muscular contractions. A woman can enjoy these contractions with or without expelling any fluid. She may also squirt without climaxing. If she squirts, it doesn’t mean anything except that she’s enjoying herself. While studies are small and limited, it does appear that squirting is a relatively common experience. But it isn’t a distinction between a “real” or “fake” orgasm. It’s just a fun add-on option for the ladies.
Think of squirting like screaming or calling out your lover’s name. Some of us love to announce our orgasm’s arrival with a big show, while others are more reserved in these moments. But an orgasm is an orgasm, whether it’s loud or quiet.The right way to have one is the way that works for you.
Is It Pee?
Mostly no. The Journal Of Sexual Medicine reports finding two different fluids expelled from the female body – a thick milky fluid from the female prostate (or Skene’s gland) and a diluted fluid from the bladder. So if you’re a gusher, there may be some urine in your gush. You can also expel both the milky ejaculate fluid and the watered-down bladder fluid at once.
While lots of squirters and their partners report the fluid as colorless and odorless, making it different from plain old pee, scientists have found traces of urine chemicals in expelled fluid, indicating that it’s at least partly pee. But remember that sweat also contains these chemicals in different concentrations and sweat gets everywhere during sex.
Unless you’re getting it on in a laboratory, there’s really no way to tell for sure what you’re squirting. And honestly, it doesn’t really matter. Let your body do what it wants to do. Throw down a towel if it makes you more comfortable but don’t let awkwardness about bodily secretions come between you and a good orgasm. If it’s mentioned in The Kama Sutra, it’s always worth trying.
Remember that vulnerability creates intimacy. It’s incredibly sexy to trust your partner enough to share an intense new adventure with them. If you want to try it, go for it.
What Does It Feel Like To Squirt?
It depends on the squirter. The complexity of the female body and sexual response means that everyone has her own experience of squirting. Some say it feels like an orgasm only more intense. Others say it feels completely different. Lots of women report feeling like they need to pee, which makes sense given the pressure put on the urethra during a good squirt.
You may feel a sense of pent up energy followed by an explosive burst that sprays the wall. Or you may just feel a quiet trickle at the moment of peak pleasure. Either way is good. This is about you.
Some women notice that they squirt more or less depending on where they are in their cycle. So if you were a geyser last week and it’s just nor happening tonight, don’t stress. Give it a week and try again.
The Bottom Line
Squirting, like everything else one might do in bed, is for you and/or your partner. It’s a shared experience, not a solo performance. It should feel like an exquisite indulgence, never a pressure-filled expectation.
One of the best reasons to embrace squirting is the activeness of it. Women are so often told to equate their sexuality with being passive or receptive and squirting really flies in the face of all that socialization (so to speak.) Whether you’re cis or trans, squirting can be a powerful and transformative way to take an active role in your sexual experience.
If you’d like to learn more about how to become a squirter, read this.
Whether it happens every time or just once, it should be enjoyed for what it is – another way for the body to express extreme pleasure.
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