Sexting seems like a fantastic way to heat up your relationship. That is, until you’re showing Grandma photos from your beach vacation, and up pops a naked photo texted by your holiday hookup.
Some people will tell you, “Well, don’t send any dirty texts or photos!” That’s about as realistic an approach as abstinence-only sex education. Like sex, everyone is doing it. 82% of American adults have sexted in the past year, according to a Drexel University study. It wasn’t limited to teens; some of the people in the study were in their 80s. That means photos of Fluffy aren’t the only pussy photos Grandma might be texting.
There’s no 100% risk-free way to send naked photos or naughty texts. But here’s how you can keep that risk to a minimum and make sure your sexts are seen only by the eyes they’re intended for.
Before the Tech Advice, the Talk Advice
Are you sure your partner isn’t showing your sexts to anyone else? An Indiana University study showed that 25% of recipients show sexts to, on average, three other people. Your sext is more likely to be leaked by someone you love (or at least lust) than some hacker.
If you’re going to send sexy photos, make sure the recipient is someone you know and trust. Have a conversation with them about your expectations. Do you want your photos to be seen only by them or is it OK for them to show it to friends? Do you want them to delete them from the phone as soon as they look? Without this conversation, you may find you have mismatched expectations.
Step 1: Secure Your Phone
If your phone doesn’t have a password, thumbprint lock, or some other security, set that up now. Otherwise anyone who walks by can pick up your phone and look through your texts and photos.
Next, set up an app that will allow you to remotely wipe the memory of your phone if it’s stolen. If you’re on an iPhone, use Find My iPhone. If you’re on an Android, use Find My Device.
You can also secure your sexy photos on your phone using one of several apps. Mashable has a good rundown of the latest apps for safe storage of your nude photos.
Step 2: Hide Those Sext Previews!
Hiding text and photo previews is very easy. On an iPhone, go under Settings to Notifications, select Messages and set “Previews” to “Off.” On Android, go under Settings to Lock Screen and Security, open Notifications and turn “Hide Content” on.
Step 3: Who Are You Sharing Your Account With?
If you share your Apple TV account with other people they can access your photo stream. That’s just one example of how shared accounts can trip you up. Don’t share your login unless you’re OK with them seeing everything you’ve got.
Step 4: Don’t Log In On Multiple Devices
For this same reason, you should never log in to your personal digital accounts from your work devices.
Many digital services automatically back up your content to every device that is logged in to that account. For example, if you use My Photo Stream on your phone and log into the same account on your work MacBook, Apple will sync the photos between the two devices.
For the same reason, don’t log in to your Messenger, WhatsApp or other services on your work laptop or tablet. If you message someone from your phone, the same message will also appear on all your other devices.
Step 5: Check Your Auto-Sync Settings
Celebrities and average people have all had risque photos exposed when people hacked into their automatic backups. Even if you delete a naughty photo from your phone, it may still exist in the cloud where you’ve backed it up. But people can’t grab them if they aren’t there in the first place.
If you have automatic backup set on your phone, now is the time to stop. On Android go to “Backup and Sync” under “Settings.” On Apple, go to “Settings,” then “Phone and Camera,” then “My Photo Stream.” Make sure your partners do the same!
Step 6: Remove Your Location Information From the Photo
Most digital photos have a hidden stash of information called EXIF data. EXIF data tells exactly where, when and how your photo was taken.
The good news? You can remove this data. On Android, use the app EXIF Eraser. On an iPhone, use View Exif or Metadata Remover. And if you want to see whether your partner needs to do the same, upload a photo to dickpiclocator.com.
Safe Sext Is The Best Sext
You deserve to enjoy yourself. Sext safely! You’ll protect yourself from creeps and avoid awkward conversations with your family or your employer. That is, until Grandma accidentally sends you a naughty photo meant for Grandpa.
Now that you’ve learned to sext safely, are you at a loss as to what to say? Read 20 Sexts To Make Your Partner Want You Right Now!
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