As we wrap up the month of May — which we fondly refer to as “Maysturbation” — we decided to share with you some interesting statistics from our anonymous PleazeMe Members that relates to the frequency of their masturbation practices and how the numbers pan out for each gender. As we continue to expand to serve more Members we’re committed to conducting research into the vast range of data on how sex, sexuality, masturbation, relationship style, trauma, heartbreak, existing relationships, and dating affect our overall happiness level.
It’s Good For You
For something that only exists to make us feel good, masturbation has a strangely negative reputation. We’re taught to associate it with desperation, loneliness, and even insanity — when the reality is that it’s normal, healthy, and very common!
The anonymous nature of PleazeMe provides the best opportunity for Members to feel comfortable answering questions honestly about their private sex life. Before being assigned your World, every Member first takes a quick sexual analysis. The Member receives an email with a link to their results of their sex style analysis and given access to their account to begin their personal and private exploration. These correspond to the seven “Worlds” of PleazeMe.
This World assignment serves to educate Members about their own sexual style, while also ensuring they will have the best chance at interacting with relevant brands and with other Members of similar sexual preferences. The fact that their user experience on the platform is based on their honest answers during the sexual analysis, further increases the integrity of the data.
- Each member must provide answers to questions related to sex, such as sexual habits and preferences before they are able to access the platform.
- Users provide answers to questions directly, so no assumptions need to be made.
- More than 40% of men indicate they masturbate at least daily while less than 20% of women say the same.
- More than 75% of men say they masturbate at least every few days while only 56% of women indicate the same.
- Nearly a quarter of women say they only masturbate about once per month or less while this is true for only about 11% of men.
Planned Parenthood reports that over half of adult women and 70% of adult men masturbate anywhere from once in a while to multiple times a day. Our research shows that these Planned Parenthood numbers are not as accurate as they could be… We found that those who identify as female 76.4% of them are masturbating at least once a week with 56.9% at least every few days & those who identify as male 89.1% of them are masturbating at least once a week with 75.4% at least every few days! Additionally, Planned Parenthood didn’t look at those who identify as Nonbinary or Transgender Man nor Transgender women.
Masturbating is the gold standard of self-care. It relieves stress, which makes it a magic bullet in the modern age. Unchecked stress levels can cause or worsen numerous health problems… so a stress remedy that’s free and without side effects is worth celebrating! It’s also a natural remedy for menstrual cramps. And with zero risk of pregnancy or STD transmission, it’s the ultimate form of safe sex!
It’s Good For Your Sex Life
Contrary to widely held beliefs, masturbation can be part of a thriving sex life with one or more partners. Touching yourself is the best way to learn what does it for you. Once you better understand yourself, you can pass it on to the person trying to get you off. Talk about a win-win!
You can also incorporate masturbation into your playtime with others. An orgasm is more easily achieved if you make it a team effort, so don’t be shy about giving your lover a hand at the critical moment. A demonstration of how you like it is both a practical how-to instruction and an overwhelmingly erotic performance. You can spice it up even more by playing with some D/s dynamics. Tell your partner they can look but they can’t touch. Make them watch you pleasure yourself for as long as you like before allowing them to join you.
If you’re separated from your lover by quarantine or distance, masturbation is a key element for successful phone or cam sex. Touching yourself, describing how you’re touching yourself, and sharing the visual of you touching yourself, are all great ways to stay close when you’re far apart.
It’s Good For Your Relationship
A healthy masturbation regimen can help you to be a better partner. In addition to improving your sexual self awareness and reducing your overall tension levels, it strengthens your identity as an individual and empowers you to take an active part in your life together. A healthy sense of self is essential to being happily paired up.
If you and your partner have mismatched libidos or schedules, masturbation can help to fill the gap between your drives. Perhaps your partner is less available or interested in sex than you are right now. Maybe they’re working all hours on a massive project. Maybe they just gave birth. Maybe they’re dealing with health issues. Whatever the roadblock, self love, either solo or shared with them, can allow you to focus on what’s working in your relationship rather than what’s missing.
Finally, a person who masturbates when the urge strikes, even if they’re in a relationship maintains the idea of sex as something they enjoy for themselves, rather than something they do for their partner. This makes the sex you have together more satisfying and rewarding!
Have you checked out PleazeMe.com? It is a social media platform where adults can be adults. We created the 7 Worlds of PleazeMe so that every person would have a place to privately explore their sexuality with like-minded people.
We believe in love, sexuality, and the power of inclusion. People of all shapes and sizes, colors and ethnicities, genders and sexualities are valuable and deserve to feel included. Everyone should have a safe place they can go to connect, discover and express themselves without fear of being judged, censored or discriminated against.
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