Makeup should never be mandatory – yet at times we want to play with it. Makeup can help you feel glamorous, or dramatic, or secure. You may use it to enhance playing with roles or gender. Or you might just want to keep a date going all night long! Here’s how to have fun while keeping your face in place.
Why is Makeup Sexy?
Makeup makes us attractive because it gives our features high contrast against our faces. Humans are wired to find that stimulating and exciting. The drama of makeup helps you stand out, boosting your skin and giving you piercing eyes. That means makeup enhances everyone: female, male, non-binary and more.
Everyone has their own idea of sexy makeup. Lipstick kisses, smoldering eyeliner, and the high drama of Drag looks all have admirers. Those who like makeup on others often get turned on watching their lovers apply cosmetics. Find the makeup that you enjoy and feel comfortable with, and read on to see how you can bring it to bed with you.
Help Your Look Last: Matte Makeup, Primers and Tips
For makeup to make love in, start with cosmetics that go the distance. If you have makeup that stays on during a hot summer day or a workout, that’s perfect for date night looks. Pick matte shades, waterproof eye makeup and products made for sports. See some of our recommendations for you at the end of this piece.
When you’re planning to get personal, avoid makeup that has glitter, frost and shimmer. Frost and shimmer makeup, including skin highlighters, often rub off more quickly than matte makeup. And glitter tends to stick – to sheets, clothes, your date’s eyebrows.
Makeup primers and setting spray are your friends. Primers prepare your skin for makeup. They make eyeshadows more intense and long-lasting, and they help foundation and concealer stay on. Setting spray is the finishing touch when you have your look as you like it. Spritz your face with the spray and let it dry. It will help your makeup hold up to warm skin and humidity.
In bed, you can also choose positions that can keep your makeup where it belongs. Being on top really helps! Not pressing your face down onto pillows and furniture also avoids makeup wear and tear.
Let Your Eyes Have It
The best makeup looks for sexytimes focus on eyes. Imagine intense, compelling eyes, enhanced cheeks and natural lips, ready to kiss or bite. That’s a great style for a long-lasting look.
Dramatic eyeliner holds up well. Many liquid and waterproof eyeliners last and last. It helps to draw eyeliner close to the edge of your eyes: some call this tightlining. Wing liner can hold up if it follows your eyes’ own contours, but it is more vulnerable to smudging.
To lash or not to lash with fake eyelashes? It’s true that they can’t be beat for sexy drama. Avoid extremely long or detailed lashes – they can get caught and pulled off. And try a test run to make sure you’re comfortable with the lashes and glue.
For eye makeup that endures, invest in quality products. Budget versions can wear off under pressure or come with unpleasant surprises. Here’s a cautionary tale from one of my nights as a burlesque performer: I bought beautiful eyelashes at the dollar store. Proud of my bargain, I used the glue that came with them to apply them. Turned out the glue was made of fish bones. I smelled like unhappy fish! Ever since then, I know my tiny $12 bottles of eyelash glue are worth the investment.
Stain Your Lips to Extend Color
Kissproof lips are the holy grail of sexy makeup…but the 100% kissproof solution isn’t out there yet. Even the usual tricks to help a lip look last get worn away by dedicated kissing. To say nothing of other oral activities!
For a natural looking lip, fill your lips in with a lip liner and apply a layer of balm over it. The result looks like your lips, but better. Lip liner holds up well and fades out from the inside, so your mouth still looks “done”’
Want to go red or vivid? Lip stains are like markers for your lips, creating a thin, intense ink-like color. They can endure where regular lipstick fades. Look for products called lip stains, lip inks or lip paint.
If you must have a classic lip look, try all the tricks that help lipstick hold up. Use lip primer, lip liner, a matte lipstick, a veil of powder to set lipstick, and another layer of lipstick. Serious lipstick fans can turn a touch-up during sex into an erotic tease, with a hand mirror and lingering lipstick strokes.
Smudged to Some is Sweet Disorder to Others
Sometimes all the setting spray in the world won’t keep makeup on during a love session. Don’t worry – it’s not the end of the world. Some say that if your makeup’s still in place after sex, you weren’t doing it right! Others think panda eyes, lipstick kiss marks and stray glitter everywhere is another stage of sexiness.
Is messed-up makeup not your idea of fun? Simply tuck some makeup removing pads in your bag or pockets, and bring a few key products along. That way, you can refresh yourself.
If your partner’s makeup goes astray, be kind, especially if they’re experimenting. One time my partner, a man, was trying out rock-star eyeliner. His first attempts ranged between “smudgy” and “Alice Cooper.” We knew he had the look down when I dragged him to bed. It held up so well I had to show him how to use makeup remover later.
Makeup lines with a full range of long-lasting products, including foundation:
- Tarte Athlesiure
- Stila Stay All Day
- Revlon Colorstay
- e.l.f. Magic Mist and Set
- Urban Decay All Nighter Long Lasting Setting Spray
- Smashbox’s primers, powders and setting sprays
- Eyeko’s sportsproof mascaras and liquid eyeliner
- Nars eye primer and Powermatte Lip Pigment
- MAC’s paint pots, matte lips, and matte foundations
- Maybelline’s waterproof and Lasting Drama products