Bedrooms are your most intimate space. You spend a third of your time there every day – maybe more if you have company! To encourage new encounters, or keep your sparks alive, refreshing your bedroom can help in surprisingly sensual ways. Here’s how to make your room a sanctuary for your personality and your passions.
It Starts with the Bed
Ask people what makes a bedroom erotic, and they’ll start with the bed. Their ideas about a sensuous bed say a lot about their personalities. Which of these do you relate to?
- A bed with cream-colored sheets
- A bed with big, colorful pillows
- A big bed with room for everybody
- A quality bed that shows someone invests in private time and space
Whatever you choose, your bed makes an impression. It’s the first thing a lover notices when you invite them into your bedroom. So whether your bed style is white linen or leopard-print satin, make sure it’s all fresh and in good condition.
Bed linens that you love are an investment, and a worthwhile one for the pleasure they bring between the sheets. For confidence, try sheets in colors that compliment your own skin tones. For sensuous enjoyment, slip between the sheets with your favorite texture: smooth cotton, rumpled linen, slippery satin or even soft T-shirt knit sheets. And don’t forget enough pillows for everyone.
What’s next to your bed matters, too. Bedside tables with drawers or storage baskets are a great way to store your sex toys.
Express Yourself and Your Desires
Your bedroom is the most private space in your living area. Make it a space for you. Go ahead and have inspiring books on your shelves and art that you find sexy or meaningful on your walls. Play the music that turns you on. If kink play is important, have some floor and wall space clear for spreading out.
Do you have a special interest that’s out of the ordinary? Your bedroom can be where you let that shine. People are often shy about this – but in discussions, others enjoy the surprise and discovery. It adds to increased intimacy.
Partnered up? Talk to your partner about what you both want in your bedroom. Asking, “What kind of erotic art would you want on our walls?” can definitely inspire some sparks. You might find yourself refreshing the space with items you both enjoy, like appealing lighting or sex cushions (specially made, firm cushions with wedges and curves to support different positions during lovemaking). You’ll end up with a sensual bedroom where you enjoy the ambiance…and each other!
Encourage Good Relationship Energy with Feng Shui
Sometimes you go into a room and it feels good. You’re happy to linger there – and when you spend time there, good things happen. The spiritually inclined might say these rooms have good feng shui.
What is feng shui? It’s the Chinese art of arranging buildings and living spaces for harmony and good luck. Many feng shui guidelines are also good design sense.
Here are some feng shui tips to help you bring better energy to a sensual bedroom. If you’re in a studio, use these for the area around your bed.
- Set your bed up so that you have room to invite a lover to join you. You should be able to get into your bed from both sides, and the area around your bed should be clear and uncluttered.
- Have matching lamps on each side of your bed, and an even number of pillows. This brings in more of that “ready to share” energy.
- To bring passionate love to your life, make up your bed with pink or red sheets.
- Open your curtains during the day to let sunlight in.
- The far right corner of a bedroom is the feng shui location for romance. Put something meaningful there: a romantic artwork, a soft light, or a small mirror.
- If you’ve had a bad breakup or a divorce, get rid of the linens you associate with it – maybe it’s time for a whole new bed.
You’ll know that you’ve improved your bedroom’s feng shui when you enjoy being in there. The most obvious signs? Finding that you’re making love more, or that you’ve met someone to share your bed with you.
Watch Out for These Sensual Bedroom Don’ts
Sometimes the things that sound sexy actually make a bedroom less inspiring.
You may think that strongly scented candles or incense will give your bedroom a sexy atmosphere. They might, if everyone agrees on a scent they like, but the good part doesn’t always last long. Lingering smoke and fragrance can go stale quickly. The scents can also get into your clothes and linens. Unscented candles are just as flattering and romantic without the risk of odor offense.
Some decor associated with sexy bedrooms can be bad feng shui. These include metal bed frames and headboards, and mirrors facing the bed. You should also avoid aggressive or harsh art, pictures of family, or work desks. If you’re really attached to these things, try your bedroom with and without them, and see what you like better.
Related to this, do your best to not have pets’ food, cages, or litter boxes in your bedroom. If you must have these, have a way to cover them – and make sure they are very clean at all times.
Celebrate Your Sensuous Success
When you make changes, take time to relish them. Invite someone to break in those fresh sheets, listen to your erotic playlist, and make sure that saucy picture is very well hung, so to speak. At the very least, simply lounge around and enjoy yourself in your personal, pleasureful sanctuary.
If you liked this article, find more ways to spice up your bedroom with 5 Quick Ways to Make Your Bedroom Sexier and Sex Talk 101: How To Tell Your Partner What You Want In Bed.