A Single Woman’s Exploratory Journey To A Lifestyle Resort
As I walked up to the resort, the first thing I saw were the words “Pursue Pleasure” to the left of the entrance. I thought for a moment, how nice, that sounds exciting… Just then the doorman greeted me by saying, “Welcome home.” I must admit, it was a very pleasant initial impression.
This was my first “lifestyle or nude” resort experience. Not only was it my first visit, but I was also flying solo. As a single heterosexual woman, I honestly was not sure what to expect! I did meet my friends, Page and Sam, a heterosexual couple on their “virgin” lifestyle resort stay. We are not playmates, we just happened to know each other and were all interested in exploring this new type of vacation. So those first two reassuring messages did put some of my nervousness to rest. This trip was about pursuing my pleasure, my way, and they were welcoming me home. No Pressure.
Now many of you may be thinking, “You went to Hedonism, ALONE? Isn’t it a swinger resort?” Yes it is, but not entirely. It is also a nudist resort that offers it’s visitors multiple options to match their desired clothing level, as well as preferred activities as they relate to sex and pleasure.
Technically it is a sex-positive resort with two sides, which members refer to as the “nude” and the “prude” side. Although the rhyming nature of this may be cute… this naming of the sides was one thing I would like to see changed, because I feel it’s judgemental of those who want to be covered at times during their stay, by labeling them ”prudes.” It may be the guests that coined that phrase, however it would be more inclusive, welcoming and accurate if we refer to them as the “clothing prohibited” and “clothing optional” sides. Which leads me to my first lesson…
Number 1 – You don’t have to be nude 24/7 to attend the resort
- If you’re excited to be completely nude 24/7, then you will want the NUDE or “clothing prohibited” side.
- If you want to have any kind of coverup of bathing suit on, you will want to venture over to the “clothing optional” side of the resort.
- Dinners and events require clothing so if you are going to be eating, dancing, or watching the performers you are going to need to bring clothing…but not much.
At times I preferred a small amount of clothing to provide some mystery and excitement, or some time alone without my entire body exposed to the elements. I would call the nude side “clothing prohibited” as they do regulate the 100% nudity rule. (Yes, I did get kicked out for wearing a scarf on this side. They take their nudity very seriously.)
Single vs. Couple or Group
I’m sure many would agree that traveling with a companion or friend is usually more fun. Many of us aren’t interested in traveling alone to any destination let alone a “sexy” resort. I was happily surprised at how comfortable I was as a single person attending this resort. The staff was extremely friendly and helpful all over the resort.
There were plenty of water sports, poolside games, contests, entertainment shows, as well as the beautiful beaches and gorgeous weather, kept me busy. I spent the time enjoying the various activities and still found time to meditate and plan. Self-love and recharging my batteries was a primary focus for this trip. That being said, I couldn’t help but daydream about coming back with a partner to enjoy the sexually charged activities and entertainment. Double your pleasure, double your fun!
The people who came in groups did seem to have the most fun. Having others with similar interests to join in on the naked fun and entertainment did increase the party vibes. Depending on what you are looking for, both options had value.
Number 2 – You can absolutely attend as a single and have a great time!
- The pool, beach and shows are fun to attend alone.
- There are plenty of employees and the grounds are well lit and felt safe to travel alone.
- People there are ultra friendly and if you happen to be a Unicorn (A bi-sexual woman looking to play with a couple) it is a great place to find your own brand of fun.
I had the pleasure of meeting people from the various groups of people that the resort attracts. Some were swingers who have been attending for over 15 years, to monogamous couples looking to spend time naked together around sexually free people and events. People from Europe, Canada, US, and South America of all ages are coming to enjoy this special resort in Jamaica. I learned why they keep coming back to Hedonism after all these years when there are other resorts and cruises of this kind. Most, if not all of them said, it was because of the location, Jamaica!
Number 3 – People love Hedonism because it’s located in Jamaica.
Top 3 reasons for that decision:
- The weather here is consistently beautiful
- The people here are incredibly nice
- The beaches and other excursions are gorgeous
I must say that the weather for my entire trip was spectacular. Being nude is easier when the sun is shining and the temperature is above 75 degrees. Jamaica definitely delivered on near-perfect weather while I was there visiting. I only experienced rain one night and it was late before it started raining. While I was there I visited YS Falls. An amazing park with guided waterfall tours and beautiful natural springs. I also got to tour a family cannabis farm that has been serving the local market for over 30 years. The people were incredibly nice at all of the stops along the way.
Bonus Insight: “Before and After” conversations about the trip were hard to come by.
I noticed there was a repeating theme with the conversations I had with other guests — regardless of age, lifestyle status, or geographic location. They all wanted to share their opinions about the different resorts, cruises, events of the stay, as well as stories of their play (if they have them.) Many stated it was due to the pressures of family or workplace judgment for their choice of travel being sexually free or nude. Others just worried about sharing intimate details about their lovers or experiences with friends, family, and co-workers. This got us thinking…everyone was so excited to share their knowledge, advice and experiences but for 51 weeks of the year they had no one to share it with openly. So we decided we would create a Hot Topic Room for All things Hedonism!
Before You Go or After You Stay
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One Safety Disclaimer:
I flew into Montego Bay, Jamaica and spent one day exploring the city and the area between Montego Bay and Negril. There is quite a bit of poverty as it is an island community where jobs are few and import items are expensive. I wouldn’t recommend going into areas unaccompanied or too far off the touristic path without proper guidance and a wing person or two. If we didn’t have a driver/guide to drive us to Negril there is absolutely no way we would have found it. I’m not even sure Google Maps or Waze would be able to find their way around, instead, I suggest you take a tourism certified driver or bus.
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