By Jade Byrnell
Every 17th of March, the rivers and beer run green, the whiskey flows freely and T-shirts everywhere issue the invitation: “Kiss Me! I’m Irish!” While legends promise powers of persuasive speech to those who kiss the Blarney stone, kissing an Irish person has long been considered a lucky substitute for making the journey to Blarney Castle. But even if you’re nowhere near the Emerald Isle, you can make your lips lucky this St. Patty’s Day.
As eyes are windows to the soul, kissing is the window to sex. Whether you’re puckering up with the love of your life or a cutie you just met, kissing is sexy and sensual. It’s a conversation between your lips and your lover’s body. So read on for some ideas to bring the luck of the Irish into your love life this St. Patrick’s Day.
Wow Them With Your Lips Alone
The world is full of people who are great in bed but truly great kissers are harder to find. Making a lover swoon using only your lips is a skill worth cultivating.
Step One: Prepare To Engage
Before you put lips to skin, be certain they’re silky smooth and pillow-soft. This is a lifestyle choice, not a last-minute preparation. But being considered a great kisser is worth the daily effort of maintaining your kisser.
- Stay hydrated. Lips are thin and a thirsty body will show up first as dry lips. So drink your water everyday and up your intake if you’re planning to drink alcohol.
- Exfoliate any flakes with a toothbrush. Use gentle pressure and a circular motion.
- Use a lip balm twice daily, more often in dry or cold climates. Something with almond oil in it is ideal, as it’s both richly moisturizing and delicately scented, making your lips positively luxurious.
- If Glamour Red is your signature lipstick shade, skip it. While there are plenty of smudge-proof formulas on the market, natural lips are still the most kissable.
Step Two: Ask Permission
Whether you’re kissing someone for the first or the umpteenth time, “May I kiss you?” is a hot question to be asked. So ask it.
Step Three: Go Slow
Once you’ve got the green light, throttle back. Slow is sexy. Start by caressing their face with your fingertips. Then lightly brush your lips over the same spot. The temple is ideal as it’s sensitive but not usually ticklish. Inhale their smell. Feel their skin. Take your time.
Step Four: Make Contact
Take a moment to meet their eyes before leaning in for their lips. Pause at the moment of connection to savor the sensation of lips on lips. Proceed gently and softly. Listen to their body. They will tell you what they want. If they lean in, lean back. If they pull slightly away, stay put and let them come back to you. Done properly, this is a dance of lips, eyes, bodies and breath that will have them weak in the knees.
Step Five: Venture Further
If your make out session goes on long enough, you may want to explore more sensitive territory, such as the neck. While lips are exquisitely sensitive, they are not prone to ticklishness. Necks, however, must be handled with delicate firmness, lest you break the spell with a fit of giggles.
Begin by placing a hand on the back of your lover’s neck. They should feel like they could swoon and you would catch them. This sensation of being held prepares them to receive a neck kiss.
As before, begin at the temple and move down. Your breath should warm their skin and your lips should caress their face. No sudden moves here. They should be able to anticipate every inch of territory you cover on the way to their neck. Travel down the line in front of the ear with gentle kisses. And keep your fingertips on their scalp, nape, back or shoulders to make them drunk with your touch.
Once you reach the spot where their neck and shoulder meet, hover just above it and sigh gently. The heat will relax them and allow you to place your lips on that delicate curve of flesh. As when kissing their lips, proceed slowly but firmly, keeping your hands on them at all times. You are going for masterful and sensitive. Make them feel held but pay attention to their physical cues. A lover always tells you what they want.
From here, your options abound. You can close with a final meeting of your lips and theirs, your fingers cupping their face, followed by a deep eye gaze, and they’ll tell their grandchildren about this kiss. Or you can use your powers of persuasive speech to close the deal and take them home.
Or there’s a third option. You can continue making out like teenage virgins. In a long term relationship, a bona fide make out session can be sexual dynamite. If you can’t remember the last time you and your love just enjoyed each other without going all the way, treat yourselves.
A couch or floor are ideal settings for an old school make out session. Though if you want to keep it super real, nothing beats the back seat of a car. Bonus points for playing the songs you first made out to. Focus on sensations, not progress. Think of every kiss and feeling them with your lips. Your hands can play, too. But you should always lead with your lips.
Your sense of touch will be working overtime so try to use the other four to ground you in the moment. Listen to your lover’s sighs. Watch their face for clues as to the best way to touch them right now. Smell the unique scent of their skin. Taste them. Everywhere.
Follow their lead. Aim to serve. Enjoy the experience of giving pleasure. And don’t be surprised if they write poems about you on March 18.
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